...take time for yourself without feeling guilty
...say “no” once in a while, instead of draining your energy doing things for others
....react lovingly (but firmly) when the kids leave small legos all over the stairs (ouch!)
...kick back with a book at 8pm and let someone else do the dishes
...ditch the need for approval, the pressure to be a pie-baking, Pinterest-perfect mom
...deeply and completely love yourself, knowing you are absolutely GOOD ENOUGH just as you are.
“If I keep busy enough, I won’t have time to think about how unhappy I am.”
I hear you, mama. You don’t know where to begin.
Therapy? More self help books?
But you’ve already tried that. You’ve got a stack of half-finished Brené Brown books, and while they’re full of useful information, it just doesn’t stick.
Or you get excited and start making changes, but very soon you’re right back where you started, saying things like....
But even just thinking about what it would take to heal your heart and learn to love yourself—well, it sends you straight back into the merry-go-round of fear, “shoulds” and guilt.
...so you end up doing nothing at all (again).
No wonder so many women simply continue to meet everyone else’s needs instead of figuring out how to take care of themselves first!
Going, going, going until there’s nothing left.
Wishing you could be proactive and start loving yourself from the inside out (yes, mom-dom and all!).
But what if there were an easy-to-follow system that’s doable and safe, with expert guidance you don’t have to travel across the country or pay thousands of dollars to get.
(Well there is, and I’ll get to that in a second.)
Here’s that that actually MEANS:
You can keep doing the daily grind, pretending that someday you’ll get around to figuring out this whole “self love thing”...
(and you and I both know you can be SO MUCH HAPPIER in your relationships and life if you start healing your heart.)
...or you can start your journey to self-love right now. Today.
And you know what?
Even though you’ve been putting off taking better care of yourself, your decision to wait to start a journey of self love might just be will ABSOLUTELY be the best decision you ever made.
You need proven tools and strategies, a strong support network, and expert guidance of someone who’s BEEN THERE, so you can move out of fear and self-denial, and escape from the endless loop of “oh, life is fine. I’m fine.”
Some people are born lucky. They can totally rock the "healing your heart thing" right out the gate with little more than a few self help books (or at least it seems that way), but...
It takes more than books.
It takes tools, expert guidance, and support.
Not only will it help ensure you quit stopping yourself, you’ll be able to shift things 100x faster.
8 years ago, I hit rock bottom. I had been a stay-at-home mom for over a decade.
I was constantly GIVING and DOING and STRIVING to be perfect, to prove I was finally good enough...
It all started in high school. I was a farm girl, a go-getter, an achiever. I was very successful at almost everything I did, but my parents didn’t really believe in praise or thinking too highly of yourself, so I never really felt good enough.
So I just kept pushing and striving and achieving, becoming homecoming queen, a straight A student, a basketball star, getting a full-ride scholarship to college...
But they didn't really ever praise what I'd accomplished (they believed that would give me a "big head" so they just said nothing).
I just kept wishing they'd say, “Jen, you are amazing. You are doing such a great job!” But that never really happened, so I struggled with "not good enough" for YEARS.
I pushed on to earn a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies. And I married a good man, but he also hadn’t experienced much love from his parents either....
Which meant that we both went into marriage with a focus on our own NEEDS and desire for love and approval...
...leading to GUT-WRENCHING FIGHTS that left both of our hearts ACHING.
Over time we had 6 kids (“good moms” have lots of kids, right?)
I decided to leave Academia and become a stay-at-home mom. I baked homemade bread, kept the house clean, made gourmet meals, threw elaborate birthday parties…
In short I gave EVERYTHING I had for my husband and kids and did almost nothing for myself until...
In December 2010 I suffered a miscarriage. We were on my parents’ farm - FAR from a hospital - so we had to drive 1 hour to the ER.
And we FOUGHT THE ENTIRE WAY.
“What kind of monster fights with a woman having a miscarriage?” I thought.
After we were done at the ER, we drove back to my parents' house in silence. I was furious. FURIOUS that my life sucked and that I wasn't happy and that I had nothing fulfilling or meaningful.
"Healing my heart not only made me a whole lot happier, but I also noticed my husband and kids changed, too. Working on ME and healing my heart truly healed my life and my relationships, too."
Now, you could go on the same journey, which took me over 7 years and thousands of hours of reading and research and experimentation, and probably learn just as much.
But the fact is, your life is flying by, and your heart is hurting and you’re exhausted.
...a mom who SHOWS her kids exactly what it looks like to be HAPPY.
...a mom who stops the pattern of self-loathing and people pleasing and perfectionism and guilt and who shows her kids --especially her daughters-- that life is meant to be JOYOUS and FULFILLING (rather than a struggle)
Women are like the sun. When we shift, everyone around us shifts in response.
That means when we heal our own hearts, we simultaneously heal the hearts of those around us
As an experienced mom of 6 who has healed her marriage, who is happier than ever before, and who has a tribe of thousands of followers who are now experiencing a similar transformation on their own journey of self love, I want to give you an easier way.
All you need is a foolproof system that walks you step by step through a proven process of healing your heart and building self love.
...a system that includes all the tools, strategies and formulas you need to learn to love yourself so you can HAVE CLOSER RELATIONSHIPS, have more CONFIDENCE, and experience genuine HAPPINESS and PEACE.
It’s not that hard to build self love, as long as you have guidance and support…
Are you ready avoid the “gotta-take-care-of-everyone-else-but-never-myself” trap most women fall into and finally discover the self-love system I’ve used to heal my heart, to heal my marriage and to become WAY more patient, confident and happy?
Welcome to Heal Your Heart, The Complete Program for Healing Your Heart and Increasing Self Love So You Can Enjoy Greater Happiness, Increased Confidence, and Closer Relationships!
What’s the result? 20 CORE LESSONS and a beautiful collection of trainings and swipe files that guide you step by step to the home plate.
It’s everything you need to heal your heart and build deep self love...
…so you can experience better relationships, more confidence and deeper happiness.
Every week for 20 weeks you’ll receive 1 jam-packed lesson guiding you through the research, skills, and tools related to tons of self-love topics, including:
It’s internal work, but it’s the external group and support and reminders that is priceless and invaluable. When I read about HYH and what Jen was offering, I had no clue about the relationships and how I wouldn’t just heal my heart, but it would be a collective healing of hearts.”
It’s just a world of difference with what’s going on inside my head and my heart. I’m feeling the way I want to feel more and more. Changing that inner dialogue has been the biggest thing. Before it was really easy for me to get to the place where I felt worthless. I just don’t feel that way anymore. Now I kind of laugh at myself because I feel borderline arrogant because I think, ‘I’m freaking amazing!’”
addressing myself again and again as life tries to take me away. The most important thing is I realize I am important and I have found a tribe. It’s been a huge anchor for me. Everything Dr. Jen has taught us has been really valuable.”
my life has 360 changed from January until now. It’s amazing. My heart is so happy now… I’m so grateful. I don’t talk down to myself anymore. I speak affirmingly to myself. I wouldn’t have been able to do that without Dr. Jen's tools and lessons and without the other Heal Your Heart women.”