J: You're listening to the Vibrant Happy Women podcast, episode number 79.
R: So I would say to anyone that is in a place of feeling disconnected that, the opportunity theory is to do things that lift your energy and support you to feel good, and really making that your focus.
Intro: Welcome to the Vibrant Happy Women podcast, stories of vibrant women living happy lives. And now, your host, Jen Riday.
J: Welcome back to Vibrant Happy Women, I'm Jed Riday and I love that you're listening, I love that you're here, ready to take a little time for yourself. Last week, I spoke with PJ Jonas all about how she's teaching her kids to work and we had fun working on Labor Day. I have to tell you, some of my kids got poison ivy and my husband, in fact, every boy in this house has poison ivy right now; (Laughs) oops! Anyway, keep working. Also, school has probably started for most of you, that means your kids are back in school and you're trying to get a morning routine established. Well, I want to give you a heads up once again that Time Mastery for Women will be opening later this month. This is a complete A to Z system that will help you figure out what's important to you, understand what you want your legacy to be, have a system for every piece of your life so it's easy and efficient, and to overcome those mindset issues; those limiting beliefs that make you think you're not good at organization or that you can't get organized. Sometimes, we tend to thwart ourselves when we're trying to establish new habits, and now that schools in session and you're trying to get those routines down, you're going to love everything that Time Mastery for Women has to offer. It will help you get crystal clear on what's important, let go of the in essentials, and finally start spending time doing the things that help you feel the way you want to feel; doing the things that help you have the family you want to have and the life you want to have. So watch for that later this month.
Today, I'll be talking with Rachael Pickworth all about the law of attraction. The law of attraction is simply that like attracts like or that which we focus on increases. This law applies to us whether you call the power behind that law God or source or the universe, just know that this episode has so much to offer on teaching you the importance of positive thinking so that you can attract more positivity into your life. Let's go ahead and dive in.
Have you ever felt the deep inner calling of your soul to explore a new path, but your fears meant you ignored that voice inside? Rachael Pickworth of Women on Purpose had always tried to deny her yearning to rise up, to honor her truth and express herself authentically, but ultimately the pain of denying her inner truth led to her life and business crashing around her and what she calls ‘a dark night of the soul’. Rachael reached a point where she could no longer deny her higher calling and went through a realignment process where she addressed the big questions we often try to avoid such as, “Who am I?” and, “What am I here to do?” In this episode, Rachael shares her journey, her biggest learnings, including spiritual discoveries and harnessing law of attraction, and how they have changed the course of her life and her work in the world. Rachael, it's my honor to welcome you to Vibrant Happy Women.
R: Thanks, Jen, I’m so, so excited to be here. Thank you.
J: So we always start out with a quote, and I have a feeling you have a powerful one for us.
R: Oh, I think I do, and it’s still really powerful, for me, even though it's kind of… you know, I’ve read it 23, 24 years ago when I was reading Marianne Williamson’s ‘A Return to Love’.
R: And it's a powerful quote. I'm sure you and your listeners have heard it before, but I'll… I’ll read it out to you, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And it's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” And that's been a really powerful message, for me, all my life to be honest, so, yeah, I wanted to share that with you.
J: Thank you, that is a fantastic quote and we'll have the whole thing on our show notes page because it's so good. So, Rachael, we're already friends (and I love Rachael, she's amazing). So we're getting a hint of who you are and that is more spiritual and you're aligned. But let's back up.
J: Tell us about your family and where you're from so we can get the big picture and realize, “Hey, moms can be aligned too.” (Laughs)
R: Yeah! Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, I… I’m from Melbourne, I’m in my mid-40s; I’m about to turn 45. I'm a mom of 3 boys aged 5, 9 and 12, and that kind of, you know, juggling mom, and mom who is doing the mom thing and as well, and growing and evolving and changing as we do as women and as we do as moms. And I'm coming to an interesting time because my youngest is full- time at school next year. So, you know, lots of change going on for me and… and so that's my picture; that's my picture of a where we’re at right now.
J: Okay. Now, take us back in time to a low point, maybe when you weren't so aligned, and what did that look like? How did you make that shift?
R: Sure. So is it okay if I just kind of given you the back story of my journey…
J: Yeah, that would be great.
R: … personally and with work? Okay, great. So I'm from a family where everyone was in business or entrepreneurs, and I grew up just expecting I would have my own business. And my mom, who was very entrepreneurial, went off and did some business education with Robert Kiyosaki of the Rich Dad Poor Dad book, right, and he is actually quite a spiritual guy. And along that journey for her, she discovered law of attraction, new age, spirituality, and awakened me to that and sent me off to a number of business courses; this is when I was 16.
J: Oh, wow.
R: And a whole new world opened up to me. So although I was doing my traditional education at Secondary school, I started going off and doing all of these different, interesting, deep-dive education experiences around business, but also spirituality. And I was doing hands-on healing training and psychic healing training and rebirthing, practitioner training, meditation training; I was doing all of that as well as school and this alternative sort of business education. And what awakened for me when I was staying was this huge question of, “Why am I here?” because I really got an awakening an experience that there's so much more than what we see, that our lives are a more; we’re more, we’re energy, we’re an experience, an extension of something greater. And I really learned to unpack that, but what was going on was that I was sort of 16, 17, 18 in a world that didn't quite… it doesn't, you know, explore that in conversation and my friendships, and I felt really alone in that journey. And what occurred was, you know, this deep yearning to go and do spiritual work in the world. And, again, I say that I'm not religious.
So it was, you know, making a difference in the world, a yearning to make a difference, a yearning to express myself in a spiritual way and do a business; you know, make a business. And I had lots and lots of business ideas, and when I was 22, I wanted to start a corporate gift and hamper business, but there was something deeper that was a yearning that I wasn't exploring. I wanted to do journalism and then go around the world interviewing spiritual experts and share that with the world. There was this kind of yearning to share; to learn, discover, grow, and then share that experience. But I felt very lost and stuck and confused. And I'll tell you later in the story that, I now so the pattern; I saw the pattern later. But back then, what happened was, I decided not to explore that deep yearning; that pull to do this work in the world. And I started a corporate gift and hamper business to make a difference in corporate. And I start about the mom's lounge room and the business grew very quickly. I took in a business partner, we had retail stores in the city of Melbourne, manufactured product, had a wholesale showroom, and I was working long hours. We had 50 staff that takes turns and I was really denying that part of myself that was spiritual and wanted to make that big impact in the world.
And when I was about 26, 27, I was winning lots of entrepreneurial Awards in Australia and I was on front covers of magazines. And what was actually going on inside was, I was so desperately unhappy. I wasn't sleeping. I was crying in the shower before I went to work. I was so far off purpose and off track from who I deeply was and the work I felt I was meant to be doing in the world; I was so lost. And then eventually, you know, it was very hard for me to get out of bed, and I had to turn to my partner one day and say, “You know, I need to get out. I'm sorry.” She wasn't pleased about it, as you can imagine, but, you know, we sold the business and I went through a really difficult year or 2 after the sale, and eventually discovered coaching in 2000, 2001, trained in that area and I've been coaching ever since.
The journey, of course, didn't stop there, but what it did was it created a platform for me to make a difference that I want to make. I sit really under an umbrella of purpose where I support people to find clarity of purpose and express the purpose in the world, whether it's in corporate or… I have a business, madleaders.com.au, and that’s more my corporate arm, and then I have womenonpurpose.com, which is more my… more my giving myself permission to bring all of who I am into my work. And that's still evolving and growing, but it's very exciting, a bit scary, and I'm enjoying it a lot. But when I said before, there was a pattern that was going on, what I… what I eventually realized, Jen, about 5 to 10 years ago, it was… there was a really strong pattern going on from the my life. And that was that, when I put my two passions and yearnings… and for all of us, they’re different, but, for me, it was that spiritual woo-woo space. When I put her in a closet, that part of myself in a closet, and it's easy to do because you can feel like a square peg in a round hole in… in our society. When I would hide her away, I would fall into a void, a spiritual void where I would feel lost, stuck, disconnected, uncertain, frustrated, resentful, angry at myself; I would just fall into this void. Yet, when I would let her free and do my spiritual practice and my alignment work, my world would unfold differently. I would have an amazing vibration, point of attraction, and manifest amazing opportunities, exciting things. And there was just… I would shift from that void to these kind of knowing, aligned, powerful stance of being able to really dictate, direct, create, deliberately create a life and an experience that felt in deep pure alignment with the truth, the source of who I am where I could step powerfully from that energy and do what I feel I'm meant to be doing in the world with courage.
J: Well, so I love this, and we're going to go way deeper here. So let's paint a picture for the moms out there. Religious or not, spiritual or not, everyone has this point where they feel out of alignment or burned out or at a rock-bottom. What advice would you have for someone who's at that place and they don't know anything about alignment or law of attraction or aren't sure about their own spirituality? What advice would you give them?
R: Let's take the language out of it. Let's remove any conversation around law of attraction, the word ‘spiritual’; let's remove that just for a moment.
R: And let's just dive into feeling good.
R: So I would say to anyone that is in a place of feeling disconnected that, the opportunity for you is to do things that lift your energy and support you to feel good, and really making that your focus; the choice to feel good, “Do I choose to feel good? Yes, I do.” And then of giving yourself permission, getting out of your own way and allowing yourself to do things that do light you up.
R: And I'm talking simple things. I'm talking things like, you know, with your kids, turn on the music that you all love and dance around the living room. I’m talking about, you know, whether it's meditation or going for a walk or gardening, if that's what you do, or writing or reading books that light you up, and going into book shops and going to the sections you love and sitting there with a cuppa and just soaking it all up; about really lifting yourself up and giving yourself permission to do that. So if you do start to open your mind to the law of attraction and to that spiritual alignment… I'm going to go woo-woo, so I'm going to warn your… your audience right now, I’m going there. I'm going woo-woo because in my Women on Purpose space and in the work that I do in the world… and when I feel most align, this is the conversation that I want to have.
R: And that is that, in my world, we are all an extension of some form of energy. In my world, my language is ‘source energy’; it could be God, spirit. And if you are a religious, perfect, but there's no judgment here about… around religion. I just know, for some people, they are uncomfortable with the word ‘God’. So it's that we're an extension of this energy; a default is that we're an extension of this energy. And when we are aligned to this energy, we know we’re aligned because we feel good. Your alignment, your level of alignment is a reflection of how you feel. If you feel amazing and awesome and gorgeous, you're in alignment. If you feel unhappy or you're… you’re being hard on yourself or you're angry or resentful, you're out of alignment. You know you're out of alignment because you feel a negative. So we have this in-built guidance system that we can have access to; we have access to. And so when we make our goal to be happy, then we're lifting our energy, our vibration, we're raising our alignment, and then what happens is law of attraction kicks in. Because when you are in alignment, you are tapping into your alignment with this power, this source energy that you have at your fingertips, but then starts… to you become attractive; you're attracting what you want. The universe can deliver, the universe has your back, and things begin to manifest and show up where you have those amazing coincidences where you're almost smiling at yourself, going, “Oh my gosh, I just bumped into that person at the coffee shop, what a coincidence?” But if you really start to understand this education, that was not a coincidence. And things start to really begin showing up for you and it begins to be very powerful, and you feel like you're dancing in concert with the source, the truth, the alignment of who you are.
J: So when we're in alignment and we're connected to this energy, does it work like, you know, how they say, “Whatever you think will happen,”? You know, is it that easy?
R: Well, your thoughts create a feeling and a vibration and an energy. So what you think that you focus on is critical. So your thoughts do you create energy; your thoughts do them manifest. So I want to give an example when it comes to purpose. One of the things I said, for your listeners out there, if any of you are confused about your purpose or feeling stuck, if you're walking around every day saying, “I can't find my purpose. I’m stuck. I don't know what I want to do with my life. No matter what I do, I can't get clear,” if you're consistently chanting, ranting that same sentence story, your energy and vibration as a result matches that. And so it's practically impossible for you to find clarity, to have clarity of thought around your purpose and for your life to unfold, for the energy and things to be attracted towards you, it's virtually impossible if you're in the stance of it (unclear) [16:33] lacking clarity that, “I don't know what I want.”
R: Thoughts are so powerful. We have to speak as if what we want is coming.
R: So we're going into the nitty-gritty around law of attraction here. With law of attraction and with our energy and alignment, it's not about looking at our existing reality of what is around us now, because what is around us is a reflection of our past vibration; it's a manifestation of our historical thoughts, feelings, vibration. A point of Attraction in this moment is creating our future, so we have to be planting a new story (a seed; a story) that is what we chose and what we want.
R: So every thought… and this is what we called deliberate conscious creation, (if you’re familiar with that language) it's about knowing that what you're saying, thinking, feeling is creating your future reality. And being conscious and deliver when managing that, that's the work to be done…
R: … in order to correct the reality we want, and we need to know maintain higher vibration and happy vibes in order for that to turn up and show up on our behalf for us.
J: Let me ask you a practical question. I kind of feel like when I first get in touch with women or they first find the podcast, many of them come from this place of saying things like, “Oh, my life is so hard! When is summer break going to end? My spouse is kind of a jerk,” you know, these phrases we learn from each other, we repeat, we all think it's okay, but what's that really doing for us in our lives?
R: Exactly that; perpetuating the same story. And you and I have talked about this as well is that we need to change the story. I'm going to give you a really good example of one of my clients; one of my business coaching clients. She's a step-mom and, you know, that’s been really, really challenging journey for her. She… one of the boys is 17 and one is 19.
R: And the eldest has had to be basically kicked out of home and then the youngest just coming home and swearing and hating her and her him, and back and forth back and forth. And it was starting to monopolize our business coaching sessions. It eventually reached the point where I kind of had to call her on it and just said, “How can we expect anything different? Because you just keep perpetuating the same story.” And so what she did was change the story. She realized that what she was doing it was about him; it wasn't about him at all. He was simply matching her energy and vibration.
R: So what she did was change the story. You know, this family’s easy, the relationship just seems to be getting better and better, the respect in the family is increasing, you know, things just are miraculously shifting and they did. Within 2 weeks, everything had transformed. And in our last session about 3 weeks ago, I said to her, “You know, how's everything going with them?” and she said, “I don't ever get to talk about it; it's a non-issue.”
R: I mean, this is dramatic change; dramatic change. But she… you know, we’ve been working together for about 18 months and I worked with her 10 years ago in a corporate setting. And, you know, she gets this stuff and she's owning it and she's really working on educating herself personal around this in her books and listening to podcasts and things. And she just gets it; she just gets it. So that's a really good example as far… you know, from the parenting perspective…
R: … of how things can really shift and change through your thoughts, decisions, and your energy vibration.
J: Yeah, and that kind of matches with my experience. I didn't know about law of attraction, you know, too many years ago, but I remember having a day when I just said, “You know, I'm tired of this story, I'm tired of this miserable place, I'm going to be happy.” And it was just kind of a decision that I turned on, but I feel like the energy changed and then everyone around me, my family, their energy changed as well. And I think, if more women realize the power they have over their circumstances just by changing their thoughts and energy…
J: … like we're talking about…
R: It’s everything!
J: Yeah, it really is! And even, you know, those who are listening who are religious who say it's God, yeah, it works with the principle of faith. Those who aren't religious or who are spiritual, I think it all is that same energy, just different words for it; so just putting that out there.
R: That’s it.
R: Correct, correct, absolutely. Yeah, this is leading edge education we're talking about here, you know, this is so exciting. I really encouraged everyone just to try it; just to really try it. Give yourself 30 days and really change the story that's going on; catch yourself. And you know when you're saying something that's not true for you or is out of alignment because it doesn't feel good when you say it.
R: You know, every time she would talk about the relationship with her stepson, her energy would shift, she’d get angry, her face would go red. And so, what more evidence do you need that this isn't a story that is in alignment with the truth of who you are and what you really want?
J: Yep, follow those feelings; I agree.
R: Yes, yes.
J: Well, so let's try to nail it down. If we have a 30 day goal to change our stories, what would be the most practical steps to begin that? Do we wake up and recite affirmations? Do we… what do we do?
R: I would… I would cite firstly make the decision that you're going to just give up and surrender and get out of your own way and not feel like you have to strive or do or rush or worry or… you know, just let go. Let go of all the… that’s not to say you're not going to feed you kids.
R: Just let go of that… you know, the tension, the energy. Just shift into a surrender mode. One of the most powerful things that happened to me was when I was in that year, you know, that dark night of the soul, I had sold the business, I was in bed, I was struggling to get out of bed.
R: And I was crying and, “What do I do? What I do?” and, “I've got to do something,” and, you know, feeling of failure. And I just remember opening… you know, there's a book called ‘Conversations with God’, Neale Donald Walsch; a great book series for anyone that's interested. And I remember crying in bed, holding the book and just saying, you know, “God, universe, just give me a sign. What is it you want me to do?” and I just open a page and it was, “Just surrender. Get out of the way. You don't have to drive, let me drive,” you know?
J: Ooh, yeah.
R: “You don't have to do this.” And that was such a powerful place to get to. And then I just kind of let go and I thought, “Ugh!” and I had this inspiration, this thought, to get on a computer and go to Google and just type in words that I felt passionate about. And I typed in ‘Empowering people’ and ‘Making a difference’ and all these words, and I came across a page on coaching. And then, that night, there happened to be an informational session in Melbourne, and the following week I was on the course. And it just happened so effortlessly.
R: I had the money and it happened then amazing connections. And… and then I've got a call out of the blue, for me, certified… the CPA women's network, Certified Practicing Accountants, in Melbourne asking me to come and do a talk and the sort talk sold out to 160 people, 180 people, and then I booked another one 2 weeks later and I had 17 climates immediately out of it. And it just kind of… you know, just this unfolding that all occurred so rapidly. And I didn't do anything, but what I did do was I created the space, I let go, I felt like, “I don't have to do this. I don't have to drive, it’s just going to work out for me.”
R: Because the driving, me driving wasn't working.
R: So that was the alternative? And then what… it became about me giving myself permission to do what feels good, you know, if that means reading my favorite books, that means going to the coffee shop and listening to that music or journaling or writing, you know, if it means waking up in the morning and… you know, to get back to your question on 30 days, you woke up 15 minutes early and do what feels good. If you don't have meditating, don't do it, but if you do like putting your headphones on and dancing around your bedroom like no one’s… and I dare you to do this; I dare you to do this every morning for 30 days. I dare you to put on some music, your favorite music, hits from the 80s and 90s if you like, put your headphones on and… my kids do walk in and laugh at me because they find me dancing in silence, in the bedroom with my headphones on.
J: (Laughs). That’s so funny.
R: You know, or I’m singing in the shower or I sing a song in the mirror that they think is hilarious, where I'm deliberately… deliberate… and this is conscious deliberate raising of my vibration; because if you start your diet on a high note, momentum kicks in. If you're getting up in the morning and you're stressing and you're writing a list and you’re rushing around, your vibration’s low and the momentum kicks in and you attract things to reflect that energy. So give yourself permission to feel great, do what feels great, be prepared to look like a goose doing it, you know?
J: Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
R: Let the ego drop. Expect miracles to show up, expect to bump into someone who's going to tell you about a book. And when you get those moments, grab some.
J: Hmm, yeah.
R: What I… do things that feel good, eat what feels good, getting to bed each night, and you and I talked about this, you know, light the candle next to the bed, music if music works, because music is such a powerful vibration. That's a way… that’s how people get into alignment so quickly. And even before our call today, this interview, I had ‘Halo’ by Beyoncé because it's such a spiritual song. I was listening to that song and I actually missed your call, I was sitting here. And I had tears in my eyes…
R: … just… just in alignment with… you know, just really powerfully setting my intention around my alignment so that when we get on this call, I'm just kind of flowing, downloading, as opposed to, you know, rewriting a scripting and what we're going to talk about; I'm just trusting that the flow will come. And what we talked about is perfect.
J: I love that. And trusting that it will flow; that you don't have to strive and hustle and push, but you can surrender and just receive all the good things that are already coming to you; so cool!
R: And your alignment’s the key with that, right? So that the better you feel, the higher the vibration and energy, the more the synchronicities occur and the ideas and the inspiration and the knowing and the clarity occurs. That's where it kind of just all… you know, everything just becomes clear.
J: Okay, so raise your vibration, everyone out there; music, dancing, singing, walks, meditation, all those good things. Well…
J: … so, Rachael, let's shift. Well, unless you want to share anything else about that. Anything you want to say in summary about…? I mean, gosh, you just gave us the most amazing information. I don't know if we need to circle around one more time, but…
R: The only thing I’d say around that is that because I do see it under the banner of purpose, you know… you talk about this kind of, you know, yearning, “What's my purpose? What's my purpose?” that being my… you know, my thing, my story, my story around discovering that purpose is not something that you have to hunt down and find under a rock, purpose is something…. and that's one of my businesses, Women on Purpose, is a difference between hunting down your purpose and trying to find the purpose versus what I discover by the… through this alignment work and feeling good is that once you get that alignment right, the purpose becomes clear. You feel like you're living on purpose day to day where life is unfolding in alignment with who you are. And that's such a powerful… you know, that's my… if anything, if I could bottle my learning, my knowledge, and the thing I want… the message I have across the world is, if you can create that alignment, then you find your clarity of purpose and you’re on… leading a life that feels in alignment with the source of who you are, the truth of who you are, and you feel on purpose. But my story is around purpose; every single one of your listeners has got their little own story. What is it that's been their pull, their yearning? For me, it was purpose, for someone else, it could be around, you know, they want to write a book but they don't know what they want to write about or that being, you know, what they're really wanting is to find the right guy, the right relationship, or they want to get the relationship right that they've got and they’re thinking, “Oh, this guy is not right.” I'm going to tell you now, if you get your alignment right, if you (unclear) [28:14] all those issues that are out there will shift in reflection of your vibration, it will change. So, yes, my story is about the purpose, but for everybody, this alignment work is so damn powerful; personally, professionally, in relationships, health, fitness, wellbeing, yeah. So I just want to make sure that, you know, everyone can sort of see the power of this.
J: I agree with everything you're saying, Rachael. It's powerful stuff and I hope everyone will give it a try. 30 days, raise your vibration and see where it goes; feel the way you want to feel, right?
R: That’s it. Feel the way… yeah, feel the way you want to feel; that’s it.
J: Yeah. Well, let's shift into talking about some of your favorite things. But first, let's have a word from our sponsor and then we'll come back and talk about your favorite things.
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J: Alright, welcome back let's talk about your favorite things. What is a habit that has contributed to your success? Now, Rachael, I hope you'll tell us about scripting because I know you do that and we haven't talked about that on the show.
R: When I get into bed and I have the candle and I have my journal and I… I write whatever it is that I feel like writing. My journal is not about, “Dear diary, this is what happened today and I've got this problem,” it's not that kind of writing. My writing is around really writing the vision of my future in whatever area; whether it's around my kids or my business, I write. And as I'm writing, I write what makes me feel incredible. So as I'm writing it, I'm imagining myself there experiencing it. I'm raising my vibration in my point of attraction and putting my focus there so that it will then show up for me. But it can then be creative and then unfold. So that's what I mean by the scripting; it's writing the picture of what's coming.
J: Okay. So can you give us an example? And also, I'm curious, is it worded in the present tense?
R: Yes, it is. So for the house that we're living in…
R: … as I was… we had our house on the market, and as I was just… and I think we just sold I was lying in bed and I close my eyes and I get an experience of what it is that we want for next home and where I wanted it. And so, on a piece of paper, I drew a map of the 4 straits that had to be within; the house, what it would look like, that it would be low maintenance, garden, it would have a spot for the trampoline out the back, that it… “Would it be all grass at the back?” and the floor boards and the… and I could see from the kitchen out to the garden area. It was a double garage that would have a bedroom for all the kids and then I would have a big wardrobe that would have heaps of storage and space. And I… as I wrote it, I just experienced walking through there, walking in and gasping at, “(Gasp) This is perfect!” and, “Oh, I love it!” and, “Oh, I can just see us living here.” Like, I would just create the experience for myself and then put it on the paper. And I usually don't write it down, but you're creating the experience of it. And then I would set my intention, I would write, “So be it.”
R: “Bring it to me,” and getting into a shift of commanding the energy. And this could be uncomfortable for some of your listeners because there… you know, there can be that is kind of thing of we're asking, we’re praying, “Please give it to us,” we're… and particularly, if you read the ‘Conversations with God’ books, it's about that this energy is here at our service and that we can command the energy. We’re deliberate creators and we can command it, and it’s, “Bring it now, bring it to me.” And it's not even now, “Bring it to me in the perfect timing.”
J: Mmm, mm-hmm.
R: You know, and the more we do that, the more we put our energy in the experience we're going to attract, the energy has to deliver; the universe has to deliver a vibrational match to our energy.
J: So you thought about that house, you experienced it kind of spiritually first.
J: What happened?
R: And we got it!
R: I’m sitting in the office at the front right now. You know, I had to have an office at the front so that it wasn't in the middle of the house. Or house is… you now, it's really funny when I was writing it and my son came into the bedroom and he said, “What are you doing?” and I'm writing about the house that we’re that we’re manifesting. And he said, “Oh, can I read it,” and he read it and he said… at the time, I think he was about 9 or 10, and he said, “Hey, mom, you’ve got en suite, I want an en suite too,” And I said, “Oh, Leo, you know, it’s very unlikely that your bedroom will have an en suite,” (Laughs) I had to giggle to myself. And then I thought, “You know what? Why not?” So anyway, so when we found the house and we were walking through and he walked into the bigger of the kids’ bedrooms and said, “(Gasps) Mom, it’s got an en suite!”
R: (unclear) [34:54]
R: And he looked and he said, “Mom, I’ve got my own bathroom!” and I was like, “Oh my gosh,” you know?
R: And I just… and, yeah. And what’s so powerful about this from a law of attraction manifestation perspective is that, when these things occur, there is so much power in the conscious recognition that this was delivered, that I manifested and created this. You know, there’s so much power in acknowledging how powerful we are as creators.
R: Because it just creates… its immense even more that I am a deliberate powerful creator and I can create anything I choose.
J: I could totally geek out on this, for sure; I'm biting my tongue (Laughs). But tell us a favorite easy meal and your favorite kitchen gadget.
R: Okay, my favorite kitchen gadget is my husband on the barbecue. (Laughs)
R: Because I’m not a… I’m not much of a cook; I really do not like spending time in the kitchen. So I know it's a (unclear) [35:52], but he’ll be on the barbecue, he's happy there, and I'm happy. And my favorite easy meal would be, again, him on the barbecue…
R: or a stir fry or… you know, stir fry or something really easy.
R: Last week, I did… we do quite a lot of Mexican tacos. And, last week, the kids raved about baked potato night.
J: Oh yeah!
R: You know, like I said, all of the cheese and things, the potatoes in the oven for an hour, that was a very easy night; healthy, but, you know, it's very basic, but easy.
J: Yeah, yum. You're giving me ideas; I think I have to try that one. Well, what's your favorite book?
R: My favorite book… I've just got so many. But, at the moment, my favorite book is ‘Ask and It Is Given’ Esther Hicks, and that’s law of attraction 101 book.
R: And I love it. Yeah. Yep, and that’s the one beside the bed.
J: And what's the best advice you've ever received?
R: The best advice, I’m going to say… put it… I’ll answer it another way. The best example has been one mom. She's given me lots of sage advice over the years, but she was so inspiring she decided to leave my dad in her 20s and really walk out with very little and to then go out and start a business and then moved to Melbourne on her own with my sister and me and then set up a wholesale fashion business. You know, she was a girl off the land and on a farm and started a wholesale fashion business, became very successful, put us through a private school here in Melbourne and, you know, bought her house. And she was a businesswoman, she was gutsy.
J: Gutsy, yeah.
R: She was spiritual, she was open-minded. She was probably a bit liberal with us (a bit too liberal) but really supported us to be our own women.
R: And that was very in a positive way. On the other hand, she was addicted to work, she was so busy, so stressed; she'd never stop. Her father, when she was a child, called her lazy if she ever stopped, so she just had this ingrained kind of, “Got to keep going; got to keep going.”
J: Mmm, yeah.
R: She had cancer 4 times.
R: She healed herself the first time naturally with, you know, healthy food and meditation and cleansing. And so that was very powerful, that was pivotal for me; that was when I was 20. And then she eventually died 3 years ago, and it's really, you know, as far as advice or an example, it's really demonstrated to me how important it is to look after ourselves, self-care, self-love, slow down, busy… busy is not a badge of honor. You know, I think a lot of women think looking busy, being busy is… is our self-worth, and it's just not; that's been huge for me.
J: Yeah, yeah. That’s so true.
R: You know? Yeah, so it’s not so much advice, but definitely an example, you know, of what to do and what not to do to be a success; in the true sense the word.
J: Yes. I love that, “Busy is not a badge of honor.”
J: And we all need the badge to be feeling good; feeling good is that badge of honor.
R: Yeah, tough love. Yeah.
J: Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Well, let's have your personal happiness formula of 3 to 5 things that maximize your happiness.
R: Sleep 8 hours plus, you know, the fundamental foundation stuff; eat well, sleep well, drink water, doing my alignment work, my morning practice, my evening practice, even if it's 5 minutes morning and night. It would be getting out of my own way, really liberating myself, being patient with myself, self-love, and being really true to myself and, you know, being prepared to go my own way and not trim my wings to fit into what our world thinks is normal.
J: I love that! Your own voice; Women on Purpose!
J: You're living it!
J: Ooh, that's great.
J: I'll remind our listeners real quick that you can find links to everything Rachael talked about, all those books, all her advice on our show notes page at jenriday.com/79. And now, Rachael, let's have a challenge from you to our listeners and then remind us where we can find you and we'll say goodbye.
R: So my challenge would be to give us a 1 month to put yourself first, to really put yourself first and your needs first, (your oxygen mask to you first) to really, really look at, “What makes me happy?” and to do it, and to do lots of it. Don't do that self-sacrificing, “I'm going to put everyone else first and me last,” to get out of your own way, to be happy regardless of your circumstances, to really plant that energy of, “I'm happy,” and watch that unfold. The morning/evening practice, focus on high vibes and see what happens. That’s the challenge I put out there.
J: Okay, we can do that. Morning and evening practice, you just do 5 minutes sometimes even; we can all do that.
J: Good advice.
R: … exactly.
J: And we can find you at womenonpurpose.com and Facebook, Instagram, do we look for Women on Purpose?
R: I'm a big Instagram poster. So my Facebook page, I don't post on there very often, but my Instagram is womenonpurpose.rachael, r a c h a e l, and I’ve got about 13,000 people following me over there and… and that's where I post the most.
J: 13,000, Wow! Okay, Rachael, like I said at the beginning, this has been an honor. Thank you so much for giving us so much food for thought.
R: Thank you, Jen. It’s been my pleasure to be here. Thank you so much.
J: I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Rachael as much as I did; she is amazing. I'll be back on Thursday with a happy bit, and of course, we'll be back in a week with a full episode; an interview with Laura Doyle. Laura used to have a really horrible marriage, but she figured out the exact thing I figured out in my marriage to make things so much better; and I'm going to leave you there with that teaser. I will see you next time, and until then, take care.
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