We often think of ourselves as kind, but to TRULY develop kindness you need to learn (and do!) these 3 things.

Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher and best-selling author. Today, she investigates eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships. Her groundbreaking books have sold more than 2 million copies in 23 languages. Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge, is sparking an international movement of intentional kindness called the 30-Day Kindness Challenge. Shaunti and her family live in Atlanta, Georgia.

Nuggets of Wisdom from Shaunti:

“Rejoice in everything.” Philippians 4:8

“You fix yourself on what is true and honorable and right and pure and lovely and admirable. And you think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

“If you want people to like you, you ask them about them. You do not talk about yourself. You focus. You sincerely focus on all you can about them and they think you are a wonderful conversationalist.”

“Whether you are thriving in your life or in your relationships. it is more related to how you treat other people than how you yourself are treated.”

“For the 30-day kindness challenge: first, you say nothing negative about that person – either to them or about them to somebody else. Second is to find one thing that you can sincerely praise, that you can sincerely affirm about that person. And you tell them and you tell somebody else. Third is to do one small action of kindness or generosity.”

“All of us want to be kind. We just do not realize how often without realizing it that there is this blind spot that we are actually unkind a lot. And we do not want to. We do not recognize it.”

“If we truly want to be those people of kindness, it is just like the idea that love is supposed to be unconditional. So is kindness, really.”

“If you are only kind when someone deserves it, well, you are not a kind person.”

“It is a profound shift in our minds, once we actually take a look at how little time this takes and how simple this is and realize, ‘I have wasted so many years of my life!' I have this idea that something take a lot of time, a lot of emotional energy and it does not. It just requires of resetting a few habits.”

“What we focus on changes how we feel.”

Some of Shaunti‘s Favorite Things:

Personal habit: “I really need to make sure that I have time for myself in prayer. We have to be willing to prioritize what is most important. ”

Easy meal: “Salmon. You buy a fillet of salmon. You pour a cup of mayonnaise and a little bit of dill in a bowl, and you mix them together. You slather the mayonnaise on top of the salmon and you cook it.”

Possession: “NutriBullet”

Shaunti's Favorite Books: The Lord of the Rings (J.R.R. Tolkien) and How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie).

Best advice received: “Focus on others very sincerely when you are with others rather than what you most want to say.”

Shaunti's Happiness Formula:

“It is going to be the 30 day kindness challenge.”

A Challenge from Shaunti:

“Each one of you know someone you are supposed to do the 30-day kindness challenge for.”

Resources

Join the Kindness Challenge (free)

The Kindness Challenge

The Lord of the Rings (J.R.R. Tolkien)

How to Win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)

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