69: How to Be a Boss Mom (with Dana Malstaff)
After trying the stay-at-home mom thing for a while, Dana realized she literally NEEDED to be an entrepreneur and thus began the Boss Mom movement. Learn how Dana balances motherhood and her online business with confidence and efficiency.
Dana Malstaff is a mother, author, business & content strategist, coach, podcaster, and blind spot reducer. Dana is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro, and the founder of Boss Mom. She serves Boss Moms who yearn for more time and less guilt when it comes to building their business and raising their family, by providing the tools they need to get more out of their content and business, without sacrificing their family goals.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Dana:
“If you want to be a true influencer, then you should speak to create other influencers. Our influence is based around creating other influencers.”
“Good mom for me means playfulness and attentiveness.”
“So attentiveness to me means that I'm outwardly always trying to make sure I see what my kids need and trying to fulfill that in a way that makes sense to us in our family. ”
“I think you should always try to be something more than a mom.”
“You are so much more than one role, and we should strive to figure out what fulfills us outside of being a parent and outside of being a wife and outside of just being a business owner.”
“It's a really important lesson for your kids to learn and it's a really important lesson for you to learn that your kids aren't the center of the world too, cause it's hard not to feel that way about them sometimes.”
“When you're confident about your decisions, then guilt has no place in your life.”
“The reason we feel guilty is because we're not sure we're doing the right thing.”
“There are a lot of ways, and a lot of those ways compiled together equal the right way for you. It has to be about collecting the puzzle pieces and fitting them together and being confident about how you're fitting them together.”
“If you don't wan't to feel guilty then continually assess every single day what your overall priorities are. What is it that you're trying to achieve, and what are the big things that have to be done? Don't do your business and family separately because those are two big whole buckets.”
“What's important to us right now, tomorrow, over this next 30 days, or next year? What do we care about? Which one is more important? Sometimes my business wins, and sometimes my family wins. I don't feel bad about it.”
Some of Dana‘s Favorite Things:
Personal habit: “We eat, we hang out and play around. We engage with each other. We do some fun things with
my kids in the morning.”
“The habit is the assessment of my priorities, looking at what has to get done, seeing if I can delegate that out and reminding myself that I'm losing money in my business by doing things myself all the time.”
Easy meal: “Brown rice packets, chicken apple sausage, Thai peanut sauce, veggies.”
Favorite kitchen gadget: “wine opener”
Best advice received: “Business is people. Life is people. If you can't learn how to show people how they are loved and valued and connect with people with empathy and compassion, then you're going to be left feeling alone and sad.”
Dana's Happiness Formula:
1. “Learn to recognize your happy moments.”
2. “Know that others see you differently and that you're often too hard on yourself. Listen to people that tell you nice things.”
3. “Recognize when you're not happy and take an assessment on what's not working and tweak it. Don't sit in unhappiness and fester there for a long time. It doesn't help anybody.”
A Challenge from Dana:
“I want you to take the next three days and time map what you do in your day, where you spend your time. At the end of those 3 days, look at that time mapping. Look at what you are doing, where you are spending your time, whether you are spending your time doing things that make you happy and fulfill you and that you think are actually helping you get to where you want to go in your life – and the amount of time you are spending doing things that do not fulfill you and actually empty your cup. Get really serious about finding the kind of support you need through this community, through other communities, you know, through your friends and your networks. To pull yourself more into the time you are spending, doing the things that fill you and that you love, and it all starts by assessing what you are doing right now.”
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