98: How to Slow Down, Find Yourself, and Walk the Fearless Path with Leah Guy

January 29, 2018

Constant rushing, problems with relationships, and never ending to-do lists can leave us feeling lost, out of balance and knowing something has to change. In this episode, Leah Guy shares how to create 5-minute chunks of time to care of yourself, how to begin acknowledging your feelings and emotions so you can begin meeting your emotional needs, and how to use your emotional wholeness to improve your relationships.

What You'll Learn in this Episode:

How to easily build small chunks of self care into your day.
Why expecting your spouse to change is actually a form of self-sabotage.
How to let go of the need to control.
How checking in with your thoughts, emotions and feelings is much more doable (and effective!) than a strict, formulaic approach to meditation.

Nuggets of Wisdom from Leah:

“If you risk nothing you risk even more.” – Erica Jong

“Meditation can look like a million things. I just meditated on my porch while doing yoga. I do that every morning in my bedroom, in my kitchen, on my deck, wherever. It’s a moving meditation. That’s what yoga can be and should be. But you can also just sit down. Just sit down, close your eyes, be quiet and listen. That’s it. Don’t try to do anything else. That’s when people can get overwhelmed, when they’re trying to be something, trying to be different, trying to turn into something. And it’s gonna be a fight. We fight ourselves. So just sit down and shut up. Sit down, turn off your phone, close your eyes, stare at the wall, and just be quiet and listen. Remove the distractions. And that is a great place to start. And once you get comfortable there, then you will be comfortable being in the car without the radio on, without the phone on, then you will be comfortable sitting in your home while everyone else is taking a nap. Just sitting and without doing anything else. Let those moments be the meditation. Let the mindfulness take over.”

“We are so afraid of our authentic feelings. We think we are going to get stuck, or get taken over by grief, or by anger, or by whatever it is. But the truth is, those things are honest. They’re real. They are an emotion we have access to, and when we experience them, we need to recognize it and listen to what that’s telling us and let it process through, so that it moves on, hopefully. Then get somewhere else. We don’t get somewhere else by just going, No, that’s not real! No, it is real. This is real, and I need to speak it, feel it, do it.”

What does it mean to be a Vibrant Happy Woman?

“BEING REAL and AUTHENTIC. I work on that every day. I don’t think a superficial form of happiness is available every single moment. That is not realistic. Real happiness is watching my life while it’s happening. Observer as well as a participant. I really find much joy in my work. BEING ALIVE is a miracle… STOP. LOOK. FEEL. SEE. There is an enormous amount of Vibrancy in every moment.”

A Challenge from Leah:

“21 days to fearlessness – Take a 21-day challenge to do anything new that will help you feel better.”

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Jen Riday is a mom of 6 and life coach who loves to help women experience massive happiness as they let go of stress, sadness or other chronic emotions of negativity.